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Wii20100815-Entry086-Removing Boulders

admin — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 14:30:15 +0000

The previous two weeks were spent discussing the types of conflicts we experience in relationships and, specifically, in marriage. Now we come to the big question: what do we DO about the conflict?

Tim discusses the two parts of every conflict, the path to take in any conflict, and why some conflicts are easier to resolve than others.

This teaching arc is based on the book “Boundaries”, by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend, and is supplemented by their other books, Boundaries in Marriage, Boundaries for Teens, and Boundaries for Kids.

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Wii20100725-Entry083-Intruders

admin — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 14:28:44 +0000

Where are the specific conflicts likely to happen when we try to establish fences – or because we don’t? What are the signs that you might have some problem fence areas?

Trudi talks about the Fence Wars we have in Marriage today. Specifically, we talk about the intruders that would try to come inside and disrupt your marriage, how we let them in, and how we keep them out.

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Wii20100613-Entry080-Fence Wars

admin — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 15:06:57 +0000

Where are the specific conflicts likely to happen when we try to establish fences – or because we don’t? What are the signs that you might have some problem fence areas?

Tim talks about The Family You Grew Up With and gives steps for handling those problem areas.

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Wii20100509-Entry075-Adultness

admin — Sun, 09 May 2010 15:04:00 +0000

Tim discusses the Requirements for Being an Adult.

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Wii20100418-Entry072-Fence Me In

admin — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 21:49:25 +0000

Tim wraps up our discussion on Fence Myths and turns to the subject of constructing fences on ourselves. The most urgent we have for building fences in our lives is in limiting ourselves in order to provide freedom for others.

(The video used in today’s class was posted separately.)

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Wii20100418-Video

admin — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 21:46:59 +0000

This is the video clip we used in class about blaming. It is from Dr. Henry Cloud and the CloudTownsend.com website.

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Wii20100328-Entry070-Myth Math

admin — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 03:05:23 +0000

Tim takes us through some of the things that seems to be true about our fences – but really are not. We call them myths, and they stand in the way of really good fences.

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Wii20100314-Entry068-Invisible fences are for dogs, not people

admin — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 20:15:27 +0000

Trudi discusses the Tenth Law of Fences. We might have established many fences in our life, with our spouse, our children, our co-workers, our friends – but we did not perform a critical step…we did not tell them. Trudi talks about the need to make our fences visible.

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Wii20100307-Entry067-Your Move

admin — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 18:38:23 +0000

Tim talks about the Ninth Law of Fences. Good fences require action. Many times we fail with establishing and maintaining good fences because we refuse to make the tough choice, have the difficult conversation, or do the thing we fear the most.

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Wii20100228-Entry066-The Grass is Greener

admin — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 15:44:10 +0000

How do we know the difference between a Godly desire and an envious desire? How do we get what we want? The 8th Law of Fences is discussed by Tim and the class.

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