New year, new topic – Good Fences!

Does it ever seem like someone left the door to your life open and a bunch of craziness came in? Do you ever wonder if you’re saying yes to something you should refuse – or saying no when you should say yes? Does it ever feel like other people have more control of your life than you do?

Join us beginning January 3, 2010 as we begin a new subject – Good Fences: Keeping the Crazies Out, Letting the Friendlies In.

Good fences don’t only make good neighbors, they make good parents, good spouses, and good friends.

We will focus on the choices and decisions that need to be made to make our relationships healthy and loving. We will discuss when it’s okay to say no – and when we should say yes. We will explore the impact these choices have on all the relationships we experience.

We hope you join us in person to enjoy the camaraderie of class time. If you can’t make it, the class will be podcast here each week, and you can join the conversation online. You can also submit your comments and questions to our Facebook page.

We look forward to seeing and hearing from you!



Tim finishes our study based on the teachings of Mark Gungor with a serious discussion of relationships and forgiveness.

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[Note: There was no podcast for December 6, 2009. We spent the entire class time watching video, so there was nothing to record. There will also be no recording for December 27, when we held our class Christmas party.]

Trudi talks about the scorekeeping in marriage and how men and women keep and score points differently.

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Tim discusses Mark Gungor’s 4th, 3rd, and 2nd keys to Incredible Sex.
Based on teaching by Mark Gungor and

Tim discusses Mark Gungor’s 4th, 3rd, and 2nd keys to Incredible Sex.

Based on teaching by Mark Gungor and

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Trudi begins our discussion of sex.
Based on teaching by Mark Gungor and

Trudi begins our discussion of sex.

Based on teaching by Mark Gungor and

Follow-up to Entry053

Part of the reason for this blog is having the opportunity to discuss some of what happens in class. Though it doesn’t happen often, it would be nice to be able to have discussion over and above the limited time we have available on Sunday mornings.

In our class yesterday, we talked about Mark Gungor’s teaching on “going back for the girl”. Gungor told about the need every man has to boldly enter their world, pursue their dreams, and conquer their tasks. His main point was that men needed to do that, but it is far more important to remember the needs of their wife and not sacrifice marriage and family in pursuit of their ambitions.

Following his teaching, I talked about confidence, and the confidence that comes from being chosen.

Why was I stuck on confidence?

If you remember, Gungor talked about how Adam had failed in the garden of Eden. He said that Adam, given the chance to speak up and protect Eve and drive out Satan, had instead remained silent and done nothing. Gungor said – rightly so – that this was cowardice of a type that affects many men who are too afraid to speak up and get involved with their family.

To me, that’s an issue of confidence. Men – who are perfectly confident in business and work situations – become wimpy and weak in relational situations.

This failure to be confident drives insecure behavior, as it always does. Out of their insecurity, men retreat into their work-world, and don’t “go back for the girl.”

What it really takes to “go back for the girl” is confidence. And what it really means to “go back for the girl” is choosing her. When you put your “puking little life” aside and choose to spend time and affection and emotion and energy on her, you are saying, “I choose you more than anything or anyone else.”

In turn, choosing her helps give her the confidence she needs. It says that she is worthwhile and important and strong. Being chosen brings confidence.

What do you think? Does this make sense to you?