Wii20100117-Entry060-Facts about Fences

Listen to the January 17th class

Good Fences define the property lines of our life. What is me and what is not me? When can I say no? When should I say yes?

Tim leads the discussion in this entry, talking about the problems that are common when trying to establish boundaries. He then begins looking at the Ten Laws of Fences.

This teaching arc is based on the book “Boundaries”, by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend, and is supplemented by their other books, Boundaries in Marriage, Boundaries for Teens, and Boundaries for Kids.

Class Notes (PDF)

Site additions and fixes

We have added a couple of things to help you.

The first is our list of current resources – the books we are using during the current teaching arc. We are meshing all these resources into our weekly lessons, and we encourage you to read the original works. (Full disclosure: the links will take you to Amazon.com. If you purchase any of these items through these links, we get a very small referral fee.)

The second thing we have done is to add the class notes to each of the last two posts. These are the same notes that we hand out in class. You can download them and follow along as you listen.

New year, new topic – Good Fences!

Does it ever seem like someone left the door to your life open and a bunch of craziness came in? Do you ever wonder if you’re saying yes to something you should refuse – or saying no when you should say yes? Does it ever feel like other people have more control of your life than you do?

Join us beginning January 3, 2010 as we begin a new subject – Good Fences: Keeping the Crazies Out, Letting the Friendlies In.

Good fences don’t only make good neighbors, they make good parents, good spouses, and good friends.

We will focus on the choices and decisions that need to be made to make our relationships healthy and loving. We will discuss when it’s okay to say no – and when we should say yes. We will explore the impact these choices have on all the relationships we experience.

We hope you join us in person to enjoy the camaraderie of class time. If you can’t make it, the class will be podcast here each week, and you can join the conversation online. You can also submit your comments and questions to our Facebook page.

We look forward to seeing and hearing from you!